Many people, especially men, are often unaware of their emotional processes. They know very little about what makes them behave the way they do in stressful situations. They are people who feel they are not in control of themselves and therefore feel helpless. They are people who know bankruptcy very well, because they often meet it.
As we pointed out before, the brain makes decisions starting from the emotions you feel and then looking for logical reasons to support them. For example, if you are convinced that most people are untrustworthy and you find tangible evidence of it wherever you look, you are probably harboring a resolute anger or hiding a generalized fear of intimacy deep inside. And your brain works tirelessly, every day, to find continuous justifications for the presence of this anger, in the real world.
We could talk about limiting beliefs, a term widely used today. These are beliefs that we can hardly evaluate objectively. And if we somehow manage to circumscribe them, it is still difficult to establish a channel of conscious communication with them.
Yet attacking the underlying emotion is the most effective method for solving this type of problem. Instead of going into a logical battle against yourself, under the banner of " I have to do this " or" I have to stop doing this" , aiming straight at the underlying emotion will allow you to solve the problem naturally, as if it were a simple consequence. This will allow you not to suffer for love unnecessarily.
